It is certainly interesting the differences between the way people see themselves and the way you perceive them; especially so in cases where you and them disagree significantly on their personality.
Do people really know what they don't know, and do people really not realize what they are capable of?
I had an interesting conversation tonight; I thought that this particular person was quite insightful, knowing the in's and out's of 'social-engineering'; apt to percieve another's personality only after a few conversations/interactions. For it is even through my own conversations that they have frequently been the 'interceder', able to interprete both parties with precision, consequently quelling any idle chatter we might otherwise have been engaged in.
This rates quite highly for me; you don't get many people who are perceptive enough to see a person for who they really are, understand where they are really coming from; as a matter of fact, the exact opposite is true for the majority of people in our Fallen world. IF first impressions suck, they stick, and forever is it the projection of that person, even if it is completely false and unwarranted. What's worse, is that their friends pick up on this false impression, and the cycle is endless - if you stick around in that circle long enough - until they and all their friends see the grave.
Anyways, back to social-engineering... Questions have been raised: What is it to push someone's buttons? Why do some guys 'reveal' more than others? Do you have to push the right button(s) for revelation? Are there actual buttons to push for guys? Especially so in the context of one female who is "just a friend" with another male with no romantic interest?
...and on that note...
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Guys do have buttons to push, but it matters significantly who the person doing the pushing is. Two completely different individuals could push buttons in carbon copy ways, but get vast differences in their reactions. Why is this so? Maybe guys rate the person doing the pushing as apposed to the way the person is pushing buttons. Females having friends without romantic attachment. How often does this occur in today's high stakes society of love? Is this someone we know?
Agreed. So much depends on the way both parties see each other. If you don't respect them highly, you won't be as receptive; if you do respect them, then your response would perhaps be a fuller one.
ahh... the topic of Trust.
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